Let There Be Light
Notice in the picture below on the left and how you can see the light between her arms. This light is a massive key to looking powerful and confident, but not intimidating. People will judge you as immensely powerful by the light they can see between your arms.
Notice the picture below on the right, and we see there is no light between her arms, so she is perceived as less powerful. Even if she is trying not to convey that, the lack of light causes your mind to view her as nervous or shy immediately. Sometimes you want to look less intimidating, and having no light is a technique to make that happen. The most stunning pictures of people have a component that you probably never consciously noticed before, and that is light between their body and their arms.
Continual Light is a Problem
Because light represents power, too much can make you look aggressive, unlikeable, and mean. Notice the individual in the photo below on the left has light from his arms to the ground, which I call continual light. It is the constant light that makes him look aggressive and overconfident. You want your arms to relax by your side, and you want light between your body and your arms, but not continued light.
The woman below on the right has light between her arms, but not continued light, which is why she looks confident, powerful, and appealing.
I was teaching a Speech Doctor class at a major Telecommunications company. A man came up to me and said, “Are you the Speech Doctor?” He was standing precisely like the man below in the yellow shirt. He told me, “Please help me. Every time I meet someone, they think I am cocky and arrogant.”
I took his hands and placed them like the example of the woman below, and I said, “Problem solved.”
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Light Between Your Fingers
In the picture video, there is a light between the fingers, but the hand is relaxed. Having light between your fingers shows intelligence. You will often see some of the smartest people naturally gesture with an enormous amount of light between their fingers.
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Although the picture below is not a gesture because he is touching the glass, it is an example of the perfect components of a gesture. It is the light between his fingers with no tension that makes this picture amazing! Light is power.
Power Moves – Gestures With Lots of Light
When the audience is warm towards you, and you want to be dynamic and have an incredible presence, point to your slides, or the chalkboard, and show the maximum amount of light between your arm and your body.
Hold the arm as straight as possible, and then hold it still for a couple of seconds. You now command all space on the floor, and you own the stage.
Watch the Speech Doctor; Tom Coffing demonstrates how to make the perfect power moves by using the force of light.
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Power Moves – A Plethora of Gestures
In every speech, class, or presentation, there comes a 30-second timeframe to have the most impact. It is “close the sale” time where you make as many gestures as possible. Make a quick one-second right-hand gesture and drop it immediately, followed by a one-second left-handed gesture, and drop it quickly. Follow that up with a two-handed gesture. Follow that up with a series of gestures that move your hands smoothly and rhythmically—experiment with using as many nice-looking gestures as you can.
Watch this video of Tom Coffing, The Speech Doctor, in action doing a wide variety of gestures.
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